Alexia Elejalde-Ruiz, of Tribune Newspapers, wrote an interesting and entertaining story that was published today entitled, "Be a helpful cheerleader: When a loved one needs to change, nagging just won't work."
This story discussed the ups and downs of a wife who encouraged her husband to change his eating habits in order for them to both lose weight together. We hope this will encourage other couples to do the same, but we understand how difficult it is to take away food that another desires. As such, we sent the author our response:
Dear Ms. Elejalde-Ruiz,
I read your article today, "Be a helpful cheerleader" in the Baltimore Sun. It was a very enjoyable read with a positive, real-life spin. I hope your article will motivate couples to do the same as the two you wrote about.
I am the director of the Sanders Hypnosis Center in Glen Burnie, Maryland and work with weight loss clients on a daily basis. As such, there is a shortcoming in your article that I would like to point out. We have found that the reason why most individuals overeat is a psychological one. As a concerned spouse, it might be tempting to eliminate that pizza or hamburger from a loved one's diet, but if that person wants it they will eventually get it. Think about a child who is told to stay away from the cookie jar. The temptation for a cookie may have been there before, but now that he is told he can't have it, he will desire the delicious contents inside the jar even more!
This is precisely why diets fail. People are told to abstain from foods they want. As a result, they want it even more! This discussion is, coincidentally, a timely one in that World Hypnotism Day will be celebrated by hypnotists around the world on January 4th. At the Sanders Hypnosis Center, our clients deal with the psychological aspects of their eating problems. Our approach is very unique in that, with hypnosis, our clients believe they have a gastric band fitted around their stomachs. As a result, they are less hungry. For example, individuals who once would eat an entire pizza are now satisfied by having only one slice. They still eat what they want, just much less of it.